I have had that darn "We're going to the chapel and we're going to get married" song stuck in my head for weeks now! Except, replace the word "chapel" with "Jamaica!"
On August 28, 2017, my fiance Ben and I will head to Jamaica to elope! The countdown is on and I am so freakin' excited.
This decision comes after a long and stressful wedding planning process that made me miserable and quite frankly, dreading my own wedding. I give the biggest kudos to you brides out there that do all of the planning yourself - it is not a small task! I tried to take the whole thing on, without any assistance from anyone (planning or budget-wise) and it was completely overwhelming. As the big day drew closer and closer, the more distanced I felt from the whole thing, as if it wasn't my own wedding. Not a good sign. I let myself get so lost in the details and the experience for our guests, that I completely left my fiance and I out of the picture. Plus, we just bought our first home! Which we love and has so much room for our pup to run around in, but man, it wasn't a cheap purchase. Definitely dipped into the wedding budget a bit - oops. But life happens, and we made the decision best for us.
After much debate and back-and-forth, Ben and I decided to cancel the big day just a few months prior to our date (thankfully we were able to get the majority of our deposits back) and book a trip for ourselves to a Sandals resort in Jamaica. Unlimited drinks, food, paddleboarding, and alone time. That was all I wanted from my wedding day anyway - a trip away with my honey. Family and friends have been completely supportive and we are so excited to host a BBQ when we return to celebrate with them.
The lesson I learned from this? Not one size fits all, and we can't let the pressure of society and friends/family influence the way we choose to live our lives. The big, white wedding day is pretty much expected of an engaged couple, but if that doesn't fit your personalities, there's no reason you can't do something smaller and more intimate. I feel so relieved (I can finally breathe again!) to have made this decision. While I am still very much obsessed with capturing the magic that occurs at a wedding, I have learned that I am best in the role of photographer rather than bride.
Cheers to Jamaica!